Tuesday, May 29, 2012

I still can't post too many details, but we are having a blast.  Right now we get Little Bit (her name until I can actually share) on the weekends.  Of course there have been some stumbling blocks, but I think overall she is doing very well.  I'm sure that it is confusing to come to our house on the weekend and then to go back to her foster family during the week.

Her birth mother sent over a lot of clothes and her toys last week.  Most of the clothes don't fit her anymore or they were just in really bad shape, but I was able to keep a few things.  DH picked her up on Friday and when she saw her toys at our place she asked him why we had them.  He explained to her that her mom couldn't take care of her anymore, but that she wanted us to take care of her from now on.  He said that she cried and told him she needed to go home so she could take care of her mom.  :(  He explained that parents take care of children, not the other way around.

She definitely has some attachment disorder.  She started calling us mommy and daddy on the second day we had her.  She didn't even know at that point that we were adopting her.  I think she would call anyone who paid her attention mommy and daddy.

She has been testing us to see how far she can go.  She has a meltdown pretty much every day.  DH has bruises all over his legs from when he was holding her in his lap while she kicked and screamed for half an hour.  I've been doing lots of reading and know we have a long road ahead of us, but I think it will be good.  We already have a good time with her.  We took her ice skating on Saturday and she loved it.

Our court hearing is on June 12th and hopefully then she will be with us full-time and I can share more details.

6 comments:

KC said...

Ice skating sounds great, glad you are enjoying time together as a family!

Janelle thegeekywife said...

Thanks for sharing with us blog readers. What a huge adjustment for everyone.

Mrs. D'Amico said...

Praying things continue to get better. I have several friends who have children with similar attachment disorders or issues... there is hope and it will get better.

loribeth said...

I'm sure you are in for some challenges -- but I think most four-year-olds would be challenging. ; ) You've just been plunged in all at once. Hang in there!

Kate (Bee In The Bonnet) said...

WOW!!! YAY! How exciting for you guys! I am thrilled for you. I know it will be an adjustment (for you *and* your soon-to-be-daughter), but still, what a wonderful road to be on!

Rachel said...

Wow. Thank you for sharing this - it's heartbreaking to think about what she must be going through, and so very, very heart-warming to think about what you guys are doing for her. You're heroes!!