So on my last post I hinted at some family drama.  It's a long exhausting story and I'm not going to go into it other than to say my brother checked himself into the psych ward a few weekends ago.  Turns out it was over a girl who wouldn't spend time with him.  Drama queen much?  Seriously though, he's got some issues if he'll go to those lengths to get a girl's attention.

It was a wake-up call for my mother (he's 25 and is living with her, rent free I might add).  She is his enabler and is the reason he's still living at home like a 15 year old instead of the adult he should be.

I tried to clue her in to this about 5 years ago, but she refused to listen to me.  His little stunt changed that and she, my stepfather and older brother (who was in town from Texas on leave from the military) had an intervention with him.  Basically telling him to grow up or get out.

It sounds great, but I seriously doubt my mother's ability to follow through.  I'm not getting involved though.  The last time I tried to (5 years ago) all it did was cause major stress for me.  The only one who can change my brother's situation is him.  My mother is a big part of that, but he has to do the work.  Like I said, I went and spoke to my therapist about this.  She asked why I was wanting to get involved when they didn't even invite me to the intervention.  Ouch.  Point taken.

So, I am staying out of it completely.  If my brother calls and asks me for help, of course I will help him.  But I'm not going to insert myself into this situation.  I've worked too hard to get to a healthy emotional place and I'm going to do everything I can to preserve that.