I just realized that my last post was my 100th. So happy 101st post to me!
Got the call yesterday that we were denied for the Comp.assion.ate C.are program by Ser.ono to get a free round of gon.nal f. We make too much money. Yes we are comfortable, but we're not rich by any means. And the last round of IVF already put a strain on us. So now, the next step is to see if we can get some meds donated through our clinic. They told us they should know sometime next week if they're going to have any foll.isi.stim avaible to give to us. I'm going to call on Wednesday and hopefully they will have some good news. Otherwise, we're ordering from the UK pharmacy. Hopefully we'll have enough time for the drugs to be shipped here (it takes 3 days assuming it doesn't get hung up in customs, at which point it takes about a week).
I told my boss yesterday about everything that's going on. He took it better than I thought he would, but I can tell he's stressed about me being out for so long. I told him that I would need to be out for a week after transfer. I know there have been studies done that show that laying around for a week doesn't improve your chances any, but being at home will definitely improve my stress levels, and I think that plays a big role (stress). We're looking to see if I can get a laptop to work from home. I've wanted this for a while now, and now I have an actual reason for it, besides just wanting to work at home. I was so nervous when I went into his office to talk to him. I was shaking when I left. I almost felt sick to my stomach when I went to tell him. When I first mentioned IVF he said, "oh, you guys are trying to have kids?". My response was, "nah, we're just trying it out for fun to see what happens". No shit dude, why else would we be doing IVF? He made a joke about a dog and/or monkey being cheaper, which sounds crass and insensitive, but it really wasn't. At least not from him. You kind of have to know him.
So in the end, right now everything is good. I'm going to have to work my tail off to make sure I'm on top of everything at work before I take time off. He's checking to see if FMLA covers this or if I'll need to use vacation days. I'm pretty sure FMLA does cover it, but I really don't want to use any of it. If it works, that will be less time that I can use FMLA for maternity leave. I almost don't want to even type that. I feel like I'm jinxing something. But, if I end up working from home with a laptop, I wouldn't technically be on leave, would I? I guess we'll figure it out in the next few weeks.
Right now I'm still waiting on my period to start. I stopped birth control on Monday night. But I was only on it for two weeks. Maybe that wasn't time to get a good lining? No idea. My luck, it will wait to start next week on my birthday. Surprise!
4 comments:
so sorry that you got denied. I hope the clinic has some available. Would you mind emailing me the info on the UK pharmacy? I am not sure where to look for a safe choice online to buy meds.
Yeah, I didn't even fill out the Compassionate Care application because I could tell by looking at the parameters of the program that we were over-resourced. Sigh. Good try, though, right? At least you now know that you've exhausted this resource.
And, speaking from incredibly recent experience, I was advised by my HR department that FMLA will cover absences related to IVF. I'm in the process of having my RE fill out the paperwork for me so that I can recoup some of the unscheduledleave that I had to take when my cycle actually unfolded more quickly than we were expecting. My HR told me that if I get my paperwork in by a certain deadline, they will actually be able to back-date the FMLA to cover some of the time I've already missed. Plus, it'll cover any leave for future cycles if we need them (though I realllly hope we don't!).
So glad your boss took it well, but boo on them not accepting you into the program. When I started on follistim I got a free 300iu capsule coupon. I wonder if there is something like that for all the meds your on too. Good luck!
Sorry to hear you didn't get approved for the program. I hope you can get it through the RE's office.
That's great that your boss is understanding. Hope you can take FMLA.
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