Are you having a boy or a girl?
I was teaching Sunday School this morning and one of the paid helpers asked me that. That's a first. I was kind of shocked that she asked and just told her that I wasn't pregnant. She tried to backtrack and say that I had a pregnant glow about me. Or that maybe it was a prediction. Right.
Thanks woman for ruining my sunday.
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Ouch! I have had that happen and it just hurts. I am so sorry. I hope the rest of your Sunday goes better.
You're not alone! I had a co-worker ask me something similar about a month ago. It sucks.
Ugh, When will people learn that unless the kid is actually sticking it's hand out and waving at you, you don't ask the question!!!!
I am so sorry this person ruined your Sunday.
Hugs!
Aw man, I'm sorry. That sucks. People should just keep their mouths shut.
Ugh, I'm sorry. I have had that question before.
Are you kidding me? I can't believe that. Even as an 8 year old girl I remember thinking a friend's mom was pregnant but not daring to ask just in case she wasn't. When do people learn tact? There are just certain questions that you never ask without some foreknowledge. Even if a girl is clearly pregnant, you don't ask her about it. (DH did that once in the bank to be nice and the girl burst into tears going on about how her boyfriend had since left her and she was going to be a single mother and was freaked out, etc.)
Wow. I'm so sorry about this moron. I just do not understand people's tactlessness. At least she felt stupid afterwards instead of being oblivious to her error.
That sucks, but maybe it could be a good sign that there is a babe in your future... I'm sure I actually really believe signs like that, but try hard to put positive spins on these things. I hope that the helper felt like an @ss and apologized.
Uuuuugggghhhhh.... people are so clueless sometimes. Sorry that happened to you. :(
I am so sorry that you had to endure that insensitivity. I wish people would think before they talk. Hope your day has gotten better since then!
Incredible. I thought that they taught that in Manners 101.
Urgh, that's awful! Sometimes people can be so rude!!
I had that a few years ago at the checkout buying our groceries!
She asked me when i was due and if I was excited!
My gorgeous husband ripped into her while I prayed the ground would open up and eat me.
I haven't been back to those markets again! lol
Big hugs!
xx
When will people learn that asking if you're pregnant is just not polite conversation? One, it's rude. And two, it can just upset you so much. How can people not understand that? I don't get it.
A year or so back, I was at a work dinner with my hubby. The company lawyer, who had never met my husband, and who had barely spoken to me, rocked up to me and asked in a VERY loud voice if I was "the pregnant one". I could have crawled into my bowl of soup at that stage :(
So sorry about that... it's like getting sucker-punched, isn't it? I was visiting an old friend of mine recently, and her little 3 yr old girl was loving on me and then got all serious all of the sudden and asked me if I had any babies... when I said no, she asked why not. It was all I could do to keep breathing and not break down right there.
Hoping your week improves from yesterday~
Having gone through what you have gone through, I just wanted to let you know that it's okay to just take a break and not make any decisions about anything for a time. You just need to take care of your health, both physical and mental. I am much older than you, but after every BFN (and I had a lot) it was like I lost a piece of myself. Not too many people understood how I felt, stupid platitudes like just relax or just adopt and then you'll get pregnant made me furious. I had post traumatic stress, grief, and it needed to be acknowledged. Please take care, I hope the counselling gives you some relief. It's wonderful sometimes to just say the ugly, awful things out loud without judgment.
ICLW
WHEN will people learn to keep their mouths shut? :(
Wow, how clueless of her. What was she thinking?
Wow. That's just... wow. Personally, had it been said to me, I would have said, "Neither. I'm just a fattie. Thanks for reminding me!"
Oof. Sorry ppl are dumb. Sending you a hug for ICLW. *hug*
~Keiko, Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed
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